goodbyes

I've had to say goodbye more times than I would have liked,

but everyone can say that.

And no matter how many times we do it,

even when it's for the greater good, it still stings.

And though we'll never forget what we've given up,

we owe it to ourselves to keep moving forward.

What we can't do is live our lives always afraid of the next goodbye,

because chances are they're not going to stop.

The trick is to recognize when a goodbye can be a good thing,

when it's a chance to start again.

p/s quoted from ugly betty

the price of attention

Remember sometimes in our life we feel like we're the useless person in the whole wide world?

And at the moment we feel that, we said to ourselves that we should have never been born at all.

We cried and cried and cried for as much and as long as we could.

Just to make us feel better.

Because we feel like there's nobody out there who's willing to hear us saying what they think "whining" about how cruel life is.

And right at that moment when we feel like everybody is trying to push us away,

There is somebody...approaching us out of nowhere,

Reaching us to the deepest of our hearts,

And trying as hard as they could just to make us feel better.

Who wouldn't want somebody like that to ever exist for even once in our lifetime?

The person who's always there to listen,

To share not only laughter, but also tears.

But unfortunately, there aren't anybody out there who's able to be that person.

Because the truth is they don't really exist.

Well not forever..

They did appear in our life,

But the problem is, we just don't know how to appreciate.

We ignore them when they care about us,

We try to push them away,

Because we feel like what they say is something everybody can say,

typical and irritating.

Why is that?

Think about it.

Appreciate what we have while we still have it.

Because as far as that caring feeling stay depends on how we appreciate it.

Don't ever let good things slip away cause the regret is gonna last forever.

are you with the right partner??

For those who are in a relationship out there, I want you guys to ask yourself a question.. "are you with the right partner?". spare your answers..I want to share a story that I read earlier. I read it on Facebook when my friend shared it. 

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

Thanks to the writer for writing this good entry. 

Life is beautiful when we know how to paint it. Think!

my own talk show???

hi there readers! we meet again huh. well, only if you guys read my blog. LOL

i'm not in the mood to writing tonight, nor i am in the mood to study.

i know my next paper is on this coming Monday, 

but i just don't feel motivated to do my revision...

basically i have nothing to do now.

but hey, 

just a minute ago i had an idea for my blog!

maybe i should start my own segment! a permanent one..

it can be on Wednesdays perhaps.

i love Wednesday.

i'll write about my opinions about anything.

that should be fun right?
it's gonna be like my little talk show on my blog,

but on what topic should i write about?

LOVE???

yikes! hearing that word makes me sick. but maybe i should write about it. i might not have much experience but i can be hopeless romantic sometimes! who says geeks can't talk about love! but if i ever want to write about love and put it in my blog, people might think that my opinions cannot be used  and just some amateur thinking. but what the heck, there's nothing wrong with trying right? so, i'll consider. i've been looking at bloggers talking about love, but they didn't really write anything, they sketch, or draw, or doodles or anything. i suck at drawing, so it's impossible for me to follow their steps though the drawings look sweet and adorable and easier to be understood. i just have to accept that i have no talent! but i'm telling you guys that i'm not the "jiwang" type lah!

MOTIVATION???

this sounds better! i really like to give pep talk to people who think they couldn't be able to pull of something. i just like to push people and motivate them. i don't know why. there were times in my life that i wanted to be a psychologist and treat people with mental health. crazy right? but it just sounds like i myself is having mental health. okay, forget about that. my past experience has been special actually when it come to giving advice to people. some of my closest friends always seek for my advice whenever they are having problems or anything. when i asked them why on earth did they ask for my point of view, they said that i'm good at this "giving advice" thing. God knows how happy i was when they said that. but sometimes at some point, i can't really figure out what to say about whatever topic they told. so i guess it can be hard as well.

EDUCATION???

sounds pretty boring though. but it can be really helpful sometimes. for example like right now! it's the exam season! everybody might be needing help to help them study. to empower them to stay up late at night struggling to pass their papers. for me myself, i did posted an entry on my blog. i posted some tips to study last minutes. surprisingly i did got some positive responds from some readers.

MUSIC INDUSTRY CRITICS???

probably the most ridiculous thing i would come out with. i mean i've been dreaming to be a well known critics for the music industry like SIMON COWEL. but it's just in my dreams. it would not happen. not i a million years!

FASHION???
please don't make me laugh! i don't follow up current fashion trend, i'm not a fashion designer student.i mean i myself do not have the right sense of fashion. i can't even match my shirt with the right shoe color! let alone to criticize on fashion. it would only be an embarrassment! maybe i watched Ugly Betty , Project Runway and watch how Lady Gaga put on her quirky dresses that is sickly good but that doesn't make me good.

DOWNLOAD SITE???

honestly i like to download stuffs from blogs. movies, series, songs etc. i download them all. but to be the uploader? i don't think so. it's scary business. i could be caught anytime and my blog could be shut down for good! i must say no..

PHOTOGRAPHY???

let's see...i don't have a nice camera(DSLR), i have no talent, i can't edit photos..do i need to consider about this? i don't know. but i do like to see nicely edited photos.it's amazing how these people can do with such a simple photo. sure i upload photos in my blog, but my photos are plain. i didn't do any touch up. LOL

so, those are some of the few ideas i could come up with if i am to start my own segment. however, maybe i need some more time to think about it. it's hard to keep my blog alive and posting something fresh every week. it requires commitment and i don't think that i can do it. so, maybe next time yeah!